{"id":4473,"date":"2014-11-11T03:51:01","date_gmt":"2014-11-11T09:51:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/?p=4473"},"modified":"2024-04-05T05:03:14","modified_gmt":"2024-04-05T11:03:14","slug":"3-therapy-techniques-help-client-who-wont-talk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/3-therapy-techniques-help-client-who-wont-talk\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;My Client Won&#8217;t Talk!&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Tick followed tock on the clock. Tick.\u00a0 \u00a0Tock.<\/p>\n<p>But then something weird happened.<\/p>\n<p>The gap between the ticks and the tocks began to stretch. And stre-e-e-e-e-tch.<\/p>\n<p>Time seemed to have stopped. Exactly 15 minutes into the session.<\/p>\n<p>Was I suddenly in <em>The Matrix<\/em> movie, where a bullet dawdles lazily through space and seconds yawn into hours?<\/p>\n<h3>Prefer to watch instead?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"video-container\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-X2i1QDdS2E?si=M3W9usnKDWh4xHC4&amp;rel=0\" title=\"Watch My Client Won't Talk\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<p>Had time stayed home today, called in sick to watch the big game, leaving the rest of us to flounder around in an eternal present?<\/p>\n<p>If you want to test Einstein&#8217;s assertion that time is relative, take on a monosyllabic teenager as a client.<\/p>\n<p>Josh, nineteen years old, was dragged in by his mother to see me. He was moody, angry, withdrawn. She was exasperated, but also desperately worried about him. I could see he needed help. She decided not to wait, said she&#8217;d be back in an hour.<\/p>\n<p>I wondered whether an hour would be long enough&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>But fifteen minutes later I wondered whether I could stretch the session to half an hour. Inwardly praying for her return, I willed time to get a move on.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Me<\/strong>: &#8220;So, Josh, tell me what you&#8217;d like me to help you with?&#8221; (Smiley, much older person face.)<\/p>\n<p><strong>Josh<\/strong>: &#8220;Dunno.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Me<\/strong>: &#8220;Right, I see. Err&#8230; well&#8230; do you think you should be here? I mean, obviously your mum was keen for you to come, but&#8230; err&#8230; what do <em>you<\/em> think?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Josh<\/strong>: &#8220;&#8230; &#8230; Dunno.&#8221; (A glimmer of &#8220;What a dork! Just like all the other adults in my life!&#8221; \u2013 or did I imagine that?)<\/p>\n<p><strong>Me<\/strong>: &#8220;Okay&#8230; well&#8230; hmmm&#8230;&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>That was the animated part.<\/p>\n<p>This was years ago, before I had grown my own teenagers and so got plenty of practise communicating with members of an alien species, and before I had clocked up a wider experience of dealing with the occasional clammed up client.<\/p>\n<p>Now it&#8217;s not always necessary to have someone talking or telling you everything. But in that situation I felt like I needed something from Josh, and he just wasn&#8217;t forthcoming. However, by the end of our session Josh\u00a0<em>was<\/em> talking \u2013 in fact, I had trouble getting him to stop.<\/p>\n<p>There were\u00a0three things that helped him.<\/p>\n\n<h2 id=\"first-subheading\">3 sneaky\u00a0therapy techniques that get your client talking<\/h2>\n<h3>Technique one: Ask open ended questions &#8211; then answer them yourself<\/h3>\n<p>The first part of this is something you hear all the time, especially if you want to improve socially. &#8220;Ask open ended questions!&#8221; they say. You know, questions where the answer must be more than yes or no. So instead of: &#8220;Do you like the colour of these walls?&#8221; you ask something like: &#8220;What is it about this place you like?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>But I <em>was<\/em> asking Josh open ended questions, and he was just coming back with that less than encouraging rejoinder, &#8220;Dunno&#8221;. So, with desperation setting in, coupled with a burning desire to kick start time again, I started doing something a little strange. I asked him questions then <em>I<\/em> started answering <em>for<\/em> him. So:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Me<\/strong>: &#8220;Josh, what do you need most in life right now?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Josh<\/strong>: &#8220;I dun&#8230; &#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Me<\/strong>: (answering for him) &#8220;&#8230; I suppose you need to feel happier, more often. I suppose you need to feel part of a group more often. I suppose you need to feel your life has some real meaning&#8230;&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>And so on.<\/p>\n<p>I mentioned <a href=\"http:\/\/www.hypnosisdownloads.com\/blog\/the-primal-human-needs\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">many universal human needs that we <em>all<\/em> share<\/a>, so it was a safe bet some of them would resonate with Josh even though he hadn&#8217;t told me anything about himself (and his mother had told me very little). Now he still wasn&#8217;t talking, but he was listening and, despite himself, I caught him nodding even if he wasn&#8217;t consciously aware of that.<\/p>\n<p>But the next thing I did really got him talking.<\/p>\n<h3>Technique\u00a0two: Use a little misrepresentation<\/h3>\n<p>There&#8217;s nothing like feeling misrepresented to get people talking. <a href=\"\/blog\/milton-erickson-went-script-patients\/\">All drives can be used therapeutically<\/a>, and the drive to put someone right is a powerful one.<\/p>\n<div class='essb-ctt essb-ctt-modern' onclick=\"window.open('https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=There%E2%80%99s+nothing+like+feeling+misrepresented+to+get+people+talking+%23tipsfortherapists&amp;via=marktyrell&amp;related=marktyrell&amp;url=https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/3-therapy-techniques-help-client-who-wont-talk\/', 'essb_share_window', 'height=300,width=500,resizable=1,scrollbars=yes');\">\r\n    \t\t\t<span class='essb-ctt-quote'>\r\n    \t\t\tThere\u2019s nothing like feeling misrepresented to get people talking #tipsfortherapists\r\n    \t\t\t<\/span>\r\n    \t\t\t<span class='essb-ctt-button'><span>Click to Tweet<\/span><i class='essb_svg_icon_twitter'><svg class=\"essb-svg-icon\" aria-hidden=\"true\" role=\"img\" focusable=\"false\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" viewBox=\"0 0 32 32\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\"><path d=\"M28.75 9.5c0 0.25 0 0.563 0 0.813 0 8.688-6.625 18.688-18.688 18.688-3.688 0-7.188-1.063-10.063-2.938 0.5 0.063 1.063 0.063 1.563 0.063 3.063 0 5.938-1 8.188-2.813-2.875 0-5.313-1.938-6.188-4.563 0.438 0.125 0.813 0.125 1.25 0.125 0.625 0 1.188-0.063 1.75-0.188-3-0.625-5.25-3.313-5.25-6.438 0-0.063 0-0.063 0-0.125 0.875 0.5 1.875 0.813 2.938 0.813-1.75-1.125-2.938-3.188-2.938-5.438 0-1.188 0.375-2.313 0.938-3.313 3.188 4 8.063 6.625 13.5 6.875-0.125-0.5-0.188-1-0.188-1.5 0-3.625 2.938-6.563 6.563-6.563 1.938 0 3.625 0.813 4.813 2.063 1.5-0.313 2.938-0.813 4.188-1.563-0.5 1.5-1.563 2.813-2.875 3.625 1.313-0.188 2.563-0.5 3.75-1.063-0.875 1.313-2 2.5-3.25 3.438z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/i>\r\n    \t\t<\/div>\n<p>Josh&#8217;s mother had told me one important fact about Josh. &#8220;He has a girlfriend. And, you know, girls <em>really<\/em> like him, they&#8217;re always calling the house. It doesn&#8217;t seem to make him any happier, however&#8230; It&#8217;s like he takes it for granted.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Josh was indeed a good looking lad. So there we were, and I had him nodding as I talked about what he needed. As I went on, I got more and more specific. Until I hit him with: &#8220;And you definitely need to feel a lot more confident and attractive around women&#8230; &#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That was enough.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Josh<\/strong>: &#8220;I don&#8217;t have a problem with women.&#8221; His first real words.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Me<\/strong>: (ignoring him) &#8220;Of course, it takes time to get confident in that way. I suppose you&#8217;d like a girlfriend one day&#8230; Oh, \u00a0sorry! \u00a0I&#8217;m assuming your sexual orientation here&#8230;&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Josh<\/strong>: &#8220;I&#8217;ve had loads of girlfriends.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Me<\/strong>: &#8220;So, what&#8217;s the problem with girls?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Josh<\/strong>: &#8220;There isn&#8217;t one.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Mark<\/strong>: &#8220;I thought this had to do with confidence with girls. So what <em>are<\/em> you doing here?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Josh<\/strong>: &#8220;I dunno&#8230; I&#8217;ve just been feeling really down.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Mark<\/strong>: &#8220;But it&#8217;s not to do with women?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Josh<\/strong>: &#8220;No, it&#8217;s more to do with&#8230; &#8230; &#8220;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Now I&#8217;m not saying that this will always work, but if someone really won&#8217;t talk, then a little well placed misrepresentation can get them needing to scratch the itch of wanting to be seen right.<\/p>\n<p>Josh started talking about his parents&#8217; divorce. About his anxieties over what he should do in life. About his resentment of (but also love for) his mother. We could get somewhere and agree that he was fine with his confidence around women. I apologized for my &#8220;misunderstanding&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Much of this can be circumnavigated if you have the next skill.<\/p>\n<h3>Technique three: Get them talking with the unconscious mind<\/h3>\n<p>No one &#8216;doesn&#8217;t communicate&#8217;.<\/p>\n<p>Okay, let me communicate that better&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Even when people don&#8217;t speak, they still exude <em>communication<\/em>. Their posture, expression, tone of voice, pupil dilation and rate of breathing all speak a language.<\/p>\n<p>I use inner work in my practice. I have had other clients (just a few in 21 years of practice) who were as sparing with their words as Josh. But they are communicating anyway. And of course not speaking is communicating\u00a0<em>something<\/em>. If you have the skill of hypnosis you can use it to communicate with your client without <em>requiring<\/em> that they speak in return.<\/p>\n<div class=\"img-share-wrapper style2\">\n<p class=\"shareimg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/quote-on-language.png\" alt=\"Mark Tyrrell's quote\" width=\"720\" height=\"720\" \/><\/p>\n<div class=\"share-buttons-row\">\n<p class=\"share-txt\">Share this quote:<\/p>\n<div class=\"social-btn fb-share-button\" data-href=\"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/quote-on-language.png\" data-layout=\"button\" data-size=\"large\" data-mobile-iframe=\"true\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"social-btn\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p class=\"bottom-txt\">For more quotes, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/marktyrrellunk\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">follow Mark on Instagram<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>I could have said to Josh (and I have used this approach with others since Josh):<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>&#8220;Okay, now you really don&#8217;t need to talk or even listen&#8230; with your conscious mind&#8230; but you know I do hypnosis&#8230; and you may not know yet that hypnosis can happen with those eyes open or closed&#8230; locked shut in comfort or glazed over while wide open&#8230; because it really\u00a0doesn&#8217;t\u00a0matter&#8230; and in a few moments I might direct your attention to your breathing&#8230; and the way it just naturally starts to become slower&#8230; as you start to relax a little bit\u00a0more&#8230; deeply&#8230;&#8221;<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>And so on.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/uncommon-hypnotherapy\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">So if you know how to hypnotize conversationally<\/a> \u2013 that is, without needing to use scripts or set procedures \u2013 then you can use the time to hypnotize them, get them feeling resourceful, relaxed, calm and even sociable. And, of course, do some inner work on their &#8216;problem&#8217; even if they haven&#8217;t exactly let you know what their problem is.<\/p>\n<p>The beauty of hypnotic inner work is that sometimes you can work with a person without knowing anything about what it is they are working on.<\/p>\n<p>Josh started really talking with me. 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