{"id":22959,"date":"2025-09-23T00:00:09","date_gmt":"2025-09-23T06:00:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/?p=22959"},"modified":"2025-11-30T10:39:10","modified_gmt":"2025-11-30T16:39:10","slug":"how-to-help-your-self-doubting-client","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/how-to-help-your-self-doubting-client\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Help Your Self-Doubting Client"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>&#8220;Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">&#8211; Suzy Kassem<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It&#8217;s like I can only make a decision if someone else makes it for me. If I want to do something, it&#8217;s like I need permission to do it!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Are you sure about that?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I just don&#8217;t know anymore. I just don&#8217;t know what I&#8217;m supposed to think or how I should feel about my life.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Exchanges like this are common with chronically unsure clients.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, some self-reflection, objective reasoning, and wider-context thinking is vital for a mature human. Just assuming immediately that I <em>must<\/em> be right, especially when I&#8217;m highly emotional, is kind of infantile &#8211; not to say <a href=\"\/blog\/5-heroic-ways-to-help-your-clients-deal-with-a-narcissist\/\">narcissistic<\/a>!<\/p>\n<p>Extremely dogmatic, chronically opinionated people, the ones who always <em>have<\/em> to be right, aren&#8217;t just a pain to others but to themselves as well.<\/p>\n<p>As with all things, balance is key.<\/p>\n<p>At the other end of the self-surety spectrum we sometimes see clients who are chronically <em>un<\/em>sure of themselves.<\/p>\n<p>Their own take on things is discounted because it&#8217;s <em>their<\/em> take, and they have a <a href=\"\/blog\/4-main-cognitive-distortions\/\">negative self-bias<\/a>. They may find it hard to value <em>anything<\/em> that originates from themselves.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s no great leap to see that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.hypnosisdownloads.com\/blog\/44-self-esteem-boosting-tips\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">self-esteem<\/a> is at the <a href=\"\/blog\/3-easy-psychotherapy-techniques-that-identify-your-clients-real-problem\/\">root<\/a> of this.<\/p>\n<h3>The vicious self-esteem cycle<\/h3>\n<p>Chronic self-second-guessing is a persistent pattern of doubting one&#8217;s own decisions and ideas, values and perceptions.<\/p>\n<p>The chronically self-doubting client may endlessly replay choices and feel weighed down by overanalysis of all and everything to do with their lives and those close to them.<\/p>\n<p>This kind of low self-trust may stem from <a href=\"\/blog\/treating-perfectionism-3-therapy-strategies\/\">perfectionism<\/a> and <a href=\"\/blog\/how-to-help-your-client-overcome-a-fear-of-failure\/\">fear of failure<\/a>, and can lead to <a href=\"\/blog\/how-to-deal-with-an-overanalytical-client\/\">decision paralysis<\/a> and <a href=\"\/blog\/7-steps-to-treating-a-nervous-breakdown\/\">emotional exhaustion<\/a>. Over time, it undermines <a href=\"\/blog\/how-lessons-from-a-conman-can-help\/\">confidence<\/a> and disrupts <a href=\"\/blog\/the-role-of-humility-in-personal-development\/\">personal growth<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>So low <a href=\"\/blog\/how-to-help-a-client-who-feels-they-are-not-good-enough\/\">self-esteem or confidence<\/a> can both produce chronic self-doubt and also further lower that confidence and self-esteem.<\/p>\n<p>Just as someone with low self-esteem may decry their own looks and achievements and other positive qualities, they&#8217;ll also doubt the validity and worth of their own ideas and perceptions.<\/p>\n<p>Though they seldom make the leap that if their perceptions aren&#8217;t to be trusted, why are they so sure of their low self-estimation! So there is a paradox there.<\/p>\n<p>A chronic lack of self-trust is a hallmark of <a href=\"\/blog\/take-it-easy-on-yourself\/\">low self-esteem<\/a> in many people.<\/p>\n<h3>&#8220;I just don&#8217;t know!&#8221;<\/h3>\n<p>One client, Lucille, was <em>too<\/em> willing to try to see other people&#8217;s point of view, favouring their version of reality over her own.<\/p>\n<p>Her boyfriend was abusive and clearly <a href=\"https:\/\/www.hypnosisdownloads.com\/blog\/how-gaslighters-weaponize-uncertainty\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">gaslighting<\/a> her. She told me that he had &#8220;only&#8221; hit her &#8220;a few times&#8221; but quickly qualified that with &#8220;but he&#8217;s been under pressure at work; things are hard for him too!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She told me a woeful account of how he put her down in front of her friends, told her nearly every day how lucky she was to have him and that she&#8217;d never find anyone else, and, in short, deployed the whole gamut of <a href=\"\/blog\/3-ways-to-deal-with-a-narcissistic-client\/\">narcissistic strategies<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>She was more concerned with his take on their relationship than her own, and when I asked her to tell me what <em>she<\/em> thought about the way he treated her she first looked confused then became tearful and finally shook her head and sobbed:<\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;I just don&#8217;t know!&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n\n<div id=\"continue\">Here&#8217;s a few ways I tried to help Lucille, and they may prove useful strategies for you when treating the chronically self-doubting client.<\/div>\n<h3>One: Outline the problem<\/h3>\n<p>I asked Lucille, in what I hoped was as non-leading a way as possible, whether it might be possible that she just didn&#8217;t trust her own perceptions, her own take on things, as much as she might do.<\/p>\n<p>She readily agreed &#8211; perhaps because the suggestion had come from me! I asked her whether she found it hard to trust her own decisions or whether she felt she needed permission from others before forming an opinion.<\/p>\n<p>Again she replied that this was indeed the case. I wondered whether her agreement with me had to do with a kind of <a href=\"\/blog\/how-to-work-with-different-client-personality-types\/\">pathological agreeableness<\/a>, but she did seem to expand on this idea and genuinely recognize it in herself.<\/p>\n<p>Now we were having a conversation about this, together we outlined the problem in a bit more depth.<\/p>\n<h3>Two: Look at causes<\/h3>\n<p>It&#8217;s always worth looking at what might lurk beneath chronic self-doubt. We can see that both <a href=\"\/blog\/what-to-tell-your-anxious-and-panicky-clients-about-their-anxiety\/\">anxiety<\/a> then <a href=\"\/blog\/four-vital-principles-for-addiction-therapy\/\">habit<\/a> drive self-uncertainty, which manifests as overthinking, indecision, and a greater focus on possible and imagined threat than potential rewards.<\/p>\n<p>Having been badmouthed by others or continually put down, or having ideas and decisions regularly dismissed, can &#8216;train&#8217; people to do the same to themselves. A kind of internalized bad treatment and undervaluation of themselves.<\/p>\n<p>Lucille&#8217;s parents had often undermined her, though she was quick to defend them. Her older brother had been &#8220;the clever one&#8221; and her parents would often allude to their opinion that she was not capable. She she didn&#8217;t like to criticise them though as her criticism tended to be reserved for herself and not others. I could tell that her parents had <a href=\"\/blog\/the-dangers-of-comfort-and-ease\/\">mollycoddled<\/a> her in some ways, but also <a href=\"https:\/\/www.hypnosisdownloads.com\/blog\/control-freak\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">controlled her<\/a>. Her ideas were never encouraged and her decisions were dismissed, laughed at, or scorned.<\/p>\n<p>She tended to choose men who would <a href=\"https:\/\/www.hypnosisdownloads.com\/blog\/control-freak\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">control her<\/a> and put her down. This had deepened the <a href=\"\/blog\/how-brainwashing-works\/\">emotional conditioning<\/a> that had initially developed in her more formative years.<\/p>\n<p>So we were beginning to see a potential pattern as to <em>why<\/em> chronic self-doubt may have become a part of her ongoing psychology. But of course, knowing why an emotional pattern may have emerged is seldom really enough.<\/p>\n<h3>Three: Overcome the effects of the past<\/h3>\n<p>If all your decisions and perspectives were derided and scorned when you were growing up, it would perhaps be strange if you <em>didn&#8217;t<\/em> develop ongoing self-doubt.<\/p>\n<p>Some clients may have been originally self-assured and confident but had that &#8216;knocked out of them&#8217; by spending too long in an <a href=\"\/blog\/3-reasons-clients-stay-in-abusive-relationships\/\">abusive relationship<\/a>. Likewise, a perfectly confident person may lose their self-assurance after having been <a href=\"\/blog\/3-ways-to-help-your-bullied-clients\/\">bullied<\/a>, perhaps in the workplace.<\/p>\n<p>Whatever the cause, we need to ascertain to what extent past emotional conditioning is influencing our client&#8217;s psychology, their emotional patterns, in the present.<\/p>\n<p>For example, we can take the worst memories someone has of perhaps being dominated or abused, verbally or even physically, and use our <a href=\"\/blog\/rewind-technique-course\/\">skills as practitioners<\/a> to greatly <a href=\"\/blog\/3-hypnotherapy-techniques-help-clients-let-go-of-past\/\">lessen the emotional conditioning effects of those memories<\/a> on their current psychology.<\/p>\n<p>When we do, this pattern matching lessens and your client becomes much freer to express what <em>they<\/em> feel and think and to behave accordingly.<\/p>\n<p>I describe <a href=\"\/blog\/how-to-identify-and-remove-unconscious-blocks\/\">here<\/a> one way I did that with a filmed client on <a href=\"\/blog\/members\/\">Uncommon Practitioners&#8217; TV<\/a> who had been greatly limited by her mentally ill mother when she&#8217;d been growing up.<\/p>\n<p>So dealing with the effects of the past is vital, which can help the client be free to develop the <a href=\"\/blog\/how-to-aid-client-self-compassion\/\">self-compassion<\/a> necessary to begin to become much more sure of themselves.<\/p>\n<h3>Four: Cultivate self-kindness<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"\/blog\/therapist-worksheets\/self-compassion-for-past-self\/\">Self-compassion<\/a> plays a vital role in maintaining mental wellbeing, yet many people grapple with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=YO-Vor4xJho&amp;t=4s\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">self-criticism<\/a>, especially when looking back on their past. Expecting ourselves to be perfect (and if we&#8217;re not perfect we&#8217;re &#8216;<a href=\"\/blog\/how-to-help-a-client-who-feels-they-are-not-good-enough\/\">not enough<\/a>&#8216;), damning ourselves for making very human mistakes, is tantamount to self-<a href=\"\/blog\/3-ways-to-help-your-bullied-clients\/\">bullying<\/a>.<\/p>\n<div class='essb-ctt essb-ctt-modern' onclick=\"window.open('https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=Expecting+ourselves+to+be+perfect+%28and+if+we%27re+not+perfect+we%27re+%27not+enough%27%29%2C+damning+ourselves+for+making+very+human+mistakes%2C+is+tantamount+to+self-bullying.&amp;via=marktyrell&amp;related=marktyrell&amp;url=https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/how-to-help-your-self-doubting-client\/', 'essb_share_window', 'height=300,width=500,resizable=1,scrollbars=yes');\">\r\n    \t\t\t<span class='essb-ctt-quote'>\r\n    \t\t\tExpecting ourselves to be perfect (and if we're not perfect we're 'not enough'), damning ourselves for making very human mistakes, is tantamount to self-bullying.\r\n    \t\t\t<\/span>\r\n    \t\t\t<span class='essb-ctt-button'><span>Click to Tweet<\/span><i class='essb_svg_icon_twitter'><svg class=\"essb-svg-icon\" aria-hidden=\"true\" role=\"img\" focusable=\"false\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" viewBox=\"0 0 32 32\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\"><path d=\"M28.75 9.5c0 0.25 0 0.563 0 0.813 0 8.688-6.625 18.688-18.688 18.688-3.688 0-7.188-1.063-10.063-2.938 0.5 0.063 1.063 0.063 1.563 0.063 3.063 0 5.938-1 8.188-2.813-2.875 0-5.313-1.938-6.188-4.563 0.438 0.125 0.813 0.125 1.25 0.125 0.625 0 1.188-0.063 1.75-0.188-3-0.625-5.25-3.313-5.25-6.438 0-0.063 0-0.063 0-0.125 0.875 0.5 1.875 0.813 2.938 0.813-1.75-1.125-2.938-3.188-2.938-5.438 0-1.188 0.375-2.313 0.938-3.313 3.188 4 8.063 6.625 13.5 6.875-0.125-0.5-0.188-1-0.188-1.5 0-3.625 2.938-6.563 6.563-6.563 1.938 0 3.625 0.813 4.813 2.063 1.5-0.313 2.938-0.813 4.188-1.563-0.5 1.5-1.563 2.813-2.875 3.625 1.313-0.188 2.563-0.5 3.75-1.063-0.875 1.313-2 2.5-3.25 3.438z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/i>\r\n    \t\t<\/div>\n<p>I asked Lucille to write herself a letter as though she were writing with care and compassion to someone else. The letter addressed, among other things, past choices she&#8217;d made which she now felt were bad decisions.<\/p>\n<p>I told her that this letter was to be a message of respect from one part of herself to another. But she chose to share it with me the following week.<\/p>\n<h3>Lucille&#8217;s self-compassion letter<\/h3>\n<p><em>Dear Self,<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I haven&#8217;t always been great to you, have I? But I want to make it up to you. Yes, you have made a few mistakes in your life, and who hasn&#8217;t? But actually, in many ways you are kind, decent, and have your head screwed on right.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I&#8217;m making a commitment to be kinder to you, to care about you and for you, and to take YOUR decisions seriously, because&#8230; you DO know right from wrong, and you DO have common sense as well as intuition. You are loved, and I want you to know that&#8230; always.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Yours with love and respect,<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Me.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"\/blog\/hypnosis-really-work\/\">Hypnotically<\/a> I encouraged Lucille to inwardly converse with herself gently and lovingly. To cradle and cherish the child she&#8217;d been and to encourage the person she is and will become.<\/p>\n<p>Having unhooked many of the drivers of low self-trust from <a href=\"\/blog\/hidden-secrets-from-the-past\/\">the past<\/a> and encouraged a greater ongoing sense of self-trust through self-compassion, I now wanted to establish boldness and self-surety as an <em>ongoing habit<\/em> in Lucille.<\/p>\n<h3>Five: Develop the boldness habit<\/h3>\n<p>Lucille was never, thank goodness, going to be an obnoxiously opinionated &#8216;know-it-all&#8217;, but she had a lot of room to grow self-surety. Why?<\/p>\n<p>Because she was a deep thinker who, when thinking about the world (less, historically, when it came to <em>herself<\/em>), could see things in the round, from different perspectives. She had wide and varied life experience and read deeply and thoughtfully. So why the heck <em>shouldn&#8217;t<\/em> she have an opinion?<\/p>\n<p>In an age of shout-the-loudest opinions, I suggested, her opinions and ideas and decisions were at <em>least<\/em> as valuable as any others. And if she didn&#8217;t know much about something, she would learn.<\/p>\n<p>During <a href=\"\/blog\/doing-visualization-right\/\">deep hypnosis<\/a> in the &#8216;reality simulator&#8217; of her mind, I encouraged Lucille to calmly rehearse and practise being <a href=\"\/blog\/build-better-boundaries\/\">more assertive<\/a> and more self-assured generally in her decision making and point of view.<\/p>\n<p>She ended the relationship with the <a href=\"\/blog\/7-steps-to-help-your-client-resist-guilt-manipulators\/\">emotionally manipulative<\/a> man, started to see friends who helped her feel good, and generally began to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=GgFpsskYc8M\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">have fun in life<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Eventually she told me she&#8217;d gotten all she needed from therapy with me.<\/p>\n<p>I was impressed by her decisive certainty.<\/p>\n<h3><em>Get Video Answers to Your Therapy Questions<\/em><\/h3>\n<p><em>This might sound a bit space age, but right now inside <a href=\"\/blog\/members\/\">Uncommon Practitioners&#8217; TV<\/a>, you can use our Video Assistant tool to find examples of Mark working with clients in exactly the way you&#8217;re interested in. 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