{"id":21097,"date":"2024-03-19T00:00:20","date_gmt":"2024-03-19T06:00:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/?p=21097"},"modified":"2024-06-25T03:15:01","modified_gmt":"2024-06-25T09:15:01","slug":"how-to-positively-reframe-your-clients-negative-traits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/how-to-positively-reframe-your-clients-negative-traits\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Positively Reframe Your Clients’ Negative Traits"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Every thought we have either contributes to truth or illusion.”<\/em><\/p>\n

– Gautama Buddha<\/p>\n

I don’t know about you, but I try never to be glib with my clients.<\/p>\n

A glib reframe<\/a> is essentially a contradiction. And people don’t like to be contradicted, even if you’re negating their reality with all the best intentions in the world.<\/p>\n

Here’s an example of a glib reframe:<\/p>\n

Client: “I’m such a terrible person!”
\nTherapist: “No you’re not, you’re wonderful!”<\/p>\n

Now, I personally might enjoy hearing someone describe me as wonderful. (After the ego-buzz wore off, though, I’d probably conclude the person doesn’t know me any better than someone who calls me terrible!) But someone with low self-esteem<\/a> will not tend to feel better after compliments and praise<\/a> at all, and may even feel worse.<\/p>\n

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