{"id":18569,"date":"2022-03-06T00:00:35","date_gmt":"2022-03-06T06:00:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/?post_type=podcast&#038;p=18569"},"modified":"2024-03-13T12:39:25","modified_gmt":"2024-03-13T18:39:25","slug":"088-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-connection","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast\/088-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-connection\/","title":{"rendered":"The Dark Side of Emotional Needs &#8211; Connection: Podcast 088"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This podcast is the narrated version of my article <a href=\"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-part-five\/\"><em>The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs \u2013 Connection<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Part five in the series explores our innate human desire for a sense of community and how it can work against us.<\/p>\n<p><strong>In this episode I talk about:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Your decisions? Or your tribe&#8217;s?<\/li>\n<li>Taking poison instead of medicine<\/li>\n<li>Stay or die!<\/li>\n<li>The danger of leaving our brains behind<\/li>\n<li>Lack purpose, social connection and meaning<\/li>\n<li>Conform at all costs<\/li>\n<li>Put the group&#8217;s aims above your own moral code<\/li>\n<li>Let the group manipulate you using shame, threats, and promises<\/li>\n<li>Denigrate outsiders<\/li>\n<li>Partake of frequent, ritualistic, repetitive activities<\/li>\n<li>Blindly defer to authority<\/li>\n<li>Use not just groupthink, but also groupspeak<\/li>\n<li>On no account try to understand outside perspectives<\/li>\n<li>Lose your mind in mob mentality<\/li>\n<li>3 steps to resisting group mentality<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Or watch this episode of the podcast on video below:<\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"video-container\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/YW4hafp2rQI\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<p><strong>References\/Notes:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ol class=\"notes\">\n<li>Mussolini, who had a Jewish mistress and friends, famously said: &#8220;Race? It is a feeling, not a reality. &#8230; National pride has no need of the delirium of race.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>Williams, K. D., Forgas, J. P., and von Hippel, W. (Eds) (2005), <em>The social outcast: Ostracism, social exclusion, rejection, and bullying.<\/em> Psychology Press, New York.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/academic.oup.com\/scan\/article\/6\/2\/234\/1617474\/Responses-to-ostracism-across-adulthood\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/academic.oup.com\/scan\/article\/6\/2\/234\/1617474\/Responses-to-ostracism-across-adulthood<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.columbia.edu\/~nb2229\/docs\/bolger-zuckerman-kessler-jpsp-2000.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">http:\/\/www.columbia.edu\/~nb2229\/docs\/bolger-zuckerman-kessler-jpsp-2000.pdf<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedaily.com\/releases\/2014\/06\/140612104950.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/www.sciencedaily.com\/releases\/2014\/06\/140612104950.htm<\/a><\/li>\n<li>For a wonderful clarification of cultishness in everyday life, see: Deikman, A. (1990), <em>The wrong way home: Uncovering the patterns of cult behavior in American society<\/em>. Beacon Press, Boston.<\/li>\n<li>Milgram, S. (1973), &#8216;The perils of obedience&#8217;. Published in <em>Harper&#8217;s Magazine<\/em>, December 1973.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Gustave_Le_Bon\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Gustave_Le_Bon<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedaily.com\/releases\/2014\/06\/140612104950.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/www.sciencedaily.com\/releases\/2014\/06\/140612104950.htm<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Part five in the series explores our innate human desire for a sense of community and how it can work against us.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":21194,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"episode_type":"audio","audio_file":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/88-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-connection.mp3","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"29:25","filesize":"34.9M","date_recorded":"2022-03-06 00:00:35","explicit":"","block":"","itunes_episode_number":"088","itunes_title":"The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs \u2013 Connection","itunes_season_number":"","itunes_episode_type":"full","filesize_raw":"36692718"},"tags":[],"series":[],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Clear-Thinking-Out-Loud-Podcast-Artwork-new.png","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/Clear-Thinking-Out-Loud.png","download_link":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast-download\/18569\/088-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-connection.mp3","player_link":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast-player\/18569\/088-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-connection.mp3","audio_player":"<!--[if lt IE 9]><script>document.createElement('audio');<\/script><![endif]-->\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-18569-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast-player\/18569\/088-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-connection.mp3?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast-player\/18569\/088-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-connection.mp3\">https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast-player\/18569\/088-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-connection.mp3<\/a><\/audio>","episode_data":{"playerMode":"dark","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/4V0bCOutSeZSOQD6KmzFai","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"stitcher":{"key":"stitcher","url":"","label":"Stitcher","class":"stitcher","icon":"stitcher.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/feed\/podcast","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"Rd8pv6mkfF\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast\/088-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-connection\/\">The Dark Side of Emotional Needs &#8211; Connection: Podcast 088<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast\/088-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-connection\/embed\/#?secret=Rd8pv6mkfF\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;The Dark Side of Emotional Needs &#8211; Connection: Podcast 088&#8221; &#8212; Mark Tyrrell&#039;s Therapy Skills\" data-secret=\"Rd8pv6mkfF\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script type=\"text\/javascript\">\n\/*! 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