{"id":18062,"date":"2021-06-08T19:00:22","date_gmt":"2021-06-09T01:00:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/?post_type=podcast&#038;p=18062"},"modified":"2024-03-13T12:47:18","modified_gmt":"2024-03-13T18:47:18","slug":"058-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-attention","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast\/058-the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-attention\/","title":{"rendered":"Emotional Needs for Attention: Podcast 058"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This podcast is the narrated version of my article <a href=\"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/the-dark-side-of-your-emotional-needs-part-one\/\"><em>The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs \u2013 Attention<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Why do otherwise rational human beings do crazy things? This series on the dark side of human emotional needs seeks to answer just this question, and to show you how you can use this understanding to help your clients, enrich the lives of those around you, and, most importantly, make sure you are meeting your own needs.<\/p>\n<p><strong>In this episode I talk about:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Why did I DO that?!<\/li>\n<li>Mysterious motivations<\/li>\n<li>Lonely hearts beware<\/li>\n<li>Let them drink! 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