{"id":16882,"date":"2021-02-15T12:38:22","date_gmt":"2021-02-15T18:38:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/?post_type=podcast&#038;p=16882"},"modified":"2024-03-13T13:15:09","modified_gmt":"2024-03-13T19:15:09","slug":"046-how-to-help-your-clients-deal-with-heartbreak","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast\/046-how-to-help-your-clients-deal-with-heartbreak\/","title":{"rendered":"Heartbroken Client: Podcast 046"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This podcast is the narrated version of my article <a href=\"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/help-your-clients-overcome-a-broken-heart\/\"><em>3 Soul Soothing Ways To Help Your Clients Overcome A Broken Heart<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>We talk of the &#8216;pain&#8217; of break up and this word is more accurate than you might have realised. 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