{"id":16878,"date":"2021-02-14T13:57:24","date_gmt":"2021-02-14T19:57:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/?post_type=podcast&#038;p=16878"},"modified":"2024-03-13T13:15:24","modified_gmt":"2024-03-13T19:15:24","slug":"045-7-powerful-ways-to-help-your-client-overcome-relationship-insecurity","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast\/045-7-powerful-ways-to-help-your-client-overcome-relationship-insecurity\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationship Insecurity: Podcast 045"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This podcast is the narrated version of my article <a href=\"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/help-your-client-overcome-relationship-insecurity\/\">7 Powerful Ways To Help Your Client Overcome Relationship Insecurity<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>You and I know that a healthy, loving, secure and mutually respectful relationship shelters us from life&#8217;s storms and gives us solace, stimulation and support. 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