{"id":15197,"date":"2019-04-08T02:34:39","date_gmt":"2019-04-08T08:34:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/?post_type=podcast&#038;p=15197"},"modified":"2024-05-23T04:04:41","modified_gmt":"2024-05-23T10:04:41","slug":"012-dangers-of-excessive-praise","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/podcast\/012-dangers-of-excessive-praise\/","title":{"rendered":"Dangers of Excessive Praise: Podcast 012"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This podcast is the narrated version of my article <a href=\"https:\/\/www.unk.com\/blog\/dangers-of-excessive-praise\/\"><em>Why Telling People How Wonderful They Are Isn&#8217;t Always A Good Idea<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>The habit of praising people has got out of hand in recent decades and little attention has been paid to its unintended side-effects. There is a way to praise children that will encourage them and increase their self belief, and a way that is more likely to inhibit them and cause anxiety. The self esteem movement has not tended to distinguish between the two.<\/p>\n<p><strong>In this episode I talk about:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Praise and self esteem<\/li>\n<li>The unintended consequences of excessive praise<\/li>\n<li>The dangers of exceptionalism<\/li>\n<li>Counterproductive results from poorly directed praise<\/li>\n<li>How positive labels can do as much damage as negative ones<\/li>\n<li>How to handle praise elegantly<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Or watch this episode of the podcast on video below:<\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"video-container\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/xU1QmSTcHlQ\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<p><strong>References\/Notes:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ol class=\"notes\">\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/psycnet.apa.org\/journals\/psp\/74\/3\/704\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Can the promise of reward increase creativity?<\/a> Eisenberger, Robert; Armeli, Stephen; Pretz, Jean. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Vol 74(3), Mar 1998, 704-714.<\/li>\n<li>The Perils and Promises of Praise. Carol Dweck. Educational Leadership, October 2007 | Volume 65 | Number 2 Early Intervention at Every Age. 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