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The Dark Side of Emotional Needs – Connection: Podcast 088

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This podcast is the narrated version of my article The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Connection.

Part five in the series explores our innate human desire for a sense of community and how it can work against us.

In this episode I talk about:

  • Your decisions? Or your tribe’s?
  • Taking poison instead of medicine
  • Stay or die!
  • The danger of leaving our brains behind
  • Lack purpose, social connection and meaning
  • Conform at all costs
  • Put the group’s aims above your own moral code
  • Let the group manipulate you using shame, threats, and promises
  • Denigrate outsiders
  • Partake of frequent, ritualistic, repetitive activities
  • Blindly defer to authority
  • Use not just groupthink, but also groupspeak
  • On no account try to understand outside perspectives
  • Lose your mind in mob mentality
  • 3 steps to resisting group mentality

Or watch this episode of the podcast on video below:


  1. Mussolini, who had a Jewish mistress and friends, famously said: “Race? It is a feeling, not a reality. … National pride has no need of the delirium of race.”
  2. Williams, K. D., Forgas, J. P., and von Hippel, W. (Eds) (2005), The social outcast: Ostracism, social exclusion, rejection, and bullying. Psychology Press, New York.
  6. For a wonderful clarification of cultishness in everyday life, see: Deikman, A. (1990), The wrong way home: Uncovering the patterns of cult behavior in American society. Beacon Press, Boston.
  7. Milgram, S. (1973), ‘The perils of obedience’. Published in Harper’s Magazine, December 1973.

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Mark Tyrrell

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Psychology is my passion. I've been a psychotherapist trainer since 1998, specializing in brief, solution focused approaches. I now teach practitioners all over the world via our online courses.

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