People, at least sometimes, describe themselves when they describe others. This is what is known as psychological projection. Projection is a block to self-understanding and therefore to self-development. While it may provide comfort to the projector in the short term, it inevitably causes unhappiness and fractured relationships in the long term – as diminished understanding […]
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7 Steps to Help Stop Your Clients’ Panic Attacks
‘Panic attack’ is actually a misnomer, since nothing is ‘attacked’. A house alarm doesn’t ‘attack’ the house it’s protecting, but it can sound when it doesn’t need to. Stopping panic attacks is about aligning the panic response so it only happens when it really needs to. When our clients overcome panic attacks, they get their […]
How to Stop ‘Headline Thinking’ in Your Depressed and Anxious Clients
Sometimes something stated as an immutable fact in a headline turns out to be simply conjecture or even a just a faint possibility when we bother to read further. But what if, as seems to be increasingly the case, a person thinks in ‘headlines’?
Three Perceptive Ways to Spot Client Incongruence
Incongruence – seeming to be one thing while really being or feeling another – can blight relationships or even whole lives. People can sometimes be honest with you as far as they know, yet if you dig a little deeper there may be other things going on. So what signs can we look out for?
Three Transcendental Tips to Help Your Sports Performance Client
I’ve found that supreme sporting performance requires an optimal state of mind. And this is about not just what the participant has in their mind but, equally importantly, what they exclude from their consciousness. Here are some approaches I’ve found useful when working with sporting clients.
4 Tips to Help the Passive-Aggressive Client
I’ve occasionally worked with clients who exhibit that peculiar and often confusing blend of domination and aggression couched in supplication and appeasement. Apparent congeniality and agreeability laced with sarcasm and subtle obstructiveness. So, what specific patterns do we see in the passive-aggressive person? And how can we help them?
Should I Use Hypnosis With a Client Who Dissociates?
“If dissociation is a fundamental part of hypnosis, is it something you would not use with someone who tends to dissociate?” Certainly it’s a great question. As you’ll see (or hear) in my reply, dissociation is a regular part of everyday life for all of us, but for some it becomes a dysregulated state and […]
Research Roundup 17
How do research findings connect to the bigger picture of reality? What do interesting psychological titbits actually tell us about the wider human condition? How can we increase understanding of ourselves and others, rather than simply accruing more information? In this occasional series I take five pieces of recent research and offer my take on […]