Clients bring into therapy their miseries and limitations. But they also bring their potential, past triumphs, interests, and incipient and past happinesses. We can utilize much of this, and we should – because this is the very material from which we can help our clients build happier lives.
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7 Steps to Help Your Client Resist Guilt Manipulators
If our guilt-manipulated clients can start to respond differently to those who manipulate them, they will effectively change the relationship dynamic, feel more of a sense of healthy control, and move the relationship further towards a healthy, genuinely reciprocal balance for both parties.
6 Key Social Skills to Teach Your Shy Clients
Relationships are what bring meaning to most people’s lives. Social connection matters to both health and happiness. Whatever our natural tendencies, we can all learn to be better socially. So what social skills might we want to help our socially unskilled clients develop?
How to Help Your Client Stop Over Criticizing the Ones They Love
Good relationships are the biggest predictor of a happy life, yet excessive expressions of contempt destroy relationships like nothing else. Contempt, commonly expressed in the form of criticism, fundamentally communicates the idea that “you are worthless”, even if this is not the intention.
The Pandemic and Us
The world has changed. We have become divided, even splintered. What did this series of coronaviruses do to society? To collective and individual psychology? Certainly, anxiety conditions, depression, and addictions, as well as sleep disorders may well have increased hugely during the pandemic.3 And the treatment of other illnesses and diseases has been, in some […]
How to Tell if Your Client is Hypnotically Capable Without Using a ‘Susceptibility Test’
Therapeutic technique needn’t always be laid bare in a procedural or even bureaucratic form of doing therapy. Rather, I feel it’s best to have it flow and feel natural as part of a very human interaction. In a recent Q&A session I was asked about why I don’t teach standard hypnotizability tests in my courses […]
3 Reasons Your Clients Project and What You Can Do About It
People, at least sometimes, describe themselves when they describe others. This is what is known as psychological projection. Projection is a block to self-understanding and therefore to self-development. While it may provide comfort to the projector in the short term, it inevitably causes unhappiness and fractured relationships in the long term – as diminished understanding […]
7 Steps to Help Stop Your Clients’ Panic Attacks
‘Panic attack’ is actually a misnomer, since nothing is ‘attacked’. A house alarm doesn’t ‘attack’ the house it’s protecting, but it can sound when it doesn’t need to. Stopping panic attacks is about aligning the panic response so it only happens when it really needs to. When our clients overcome panic attacks, they get their […]
How to Stop ‘Headline Thinking’ in Your Depressed and Anxious Clients
Sometimes something stated as an immutable fact in a headline turns out to be simply conjecture or even a just a faint possibility when we bother to read further. But what if, as seems to be increasingly the case, a person thinks in ‘headlines’?