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Resources for ‘The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs’ Book

Links from chapters

I. Attention

The Primal Human Needs – A New Framework for Happiness

What are the ‘human givens’?

Lonely hearts killer

4 Ways to Deal with Client Denial

The Hawthorne effect

The Commanding Self

5 Heroic Ways To Help Your Clients Deal With A Narcissist

 

II. Safety

The Primal Human Needs – A New Framework for Happiness

The Sensible Psychology Dictionary

4 Great Therapy Techniques For Treating OCD

Why There’s No Need to Relive the Trauma All Over Again

How to Spot and Treat Emotional Eating

5 Heroic Ways To Help Your Clients Deal With A Narcissist

3 Psychotherapy Techniques That Identify Your Client’s Real Problem

The hidden force that’s driving many of your clients’ problems

How do I let go of the need for certainty and wanting to control all aspects of life?

 

III. Control

Learned helplessness

The Primal Human Needs – A New Framework for Happiness

How to Help Your Client Beat ‘Learned Helplessness’

3 Therapy Techniques That Help Your Clients Transcend Their Labels

The problem with the ‘personality disorder’ label

How To Encourage Post-Traumatic Growth In Your Clients

How to Help Your Client Beat ‘Learned Helplessness’

How do I let go of the need for certainty and wanting to control all aspects of life?

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Safety

 

IV. Intimacy

Terry Wogan

Blarney Stone

The Primal Human Needs – A New Framework for Happiness

3 Psychotherapy Techniques That Identify Your Client’s Real Problem

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Attention

Ending Therapy – Is it Time to Fire Your Therapist?

How to Help Smokers Escape Their Doomed Romance with Cigarettes

Florence Nightingale effect

Florence Nightingale

 

V. Connection

Jim Jones

The Primal Human Needs – A New Framework for Happiness

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Attention

Asch Conformity Experiment

3 Therapy Techniques That Help Your Clients Transcend Their Labels

 

VI. Status

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Control

How to Help Your Client Beat ‘Learned Helplessness’

Two Vital CBT Techniques I Always Use for Depression

Why Affirmations and Compliments Don’t Boost Low Self Esteem

The Primal Human Needs – A New Framework for Happiness

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Attention

Pol Pot

The Stanford Prison Experiment Trailer

3 Therapy Techniques That Help Your Clients Transcend Their Labels 

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Attention

 

VII. Challenge

Human Givens

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Attention

What Is ‘The Observing Self’ And Why Is It Such A Powerful Therapy Tool?

3 Interventions for Treating Anxiety

Sensory deprivation

How Depression Causes Negative ‘Spin’

3 Ways to Help Your Clients Control Their Emotions

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Status

 

VIII. Mind and Body

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Attention

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Status

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Intimacy

The Primal Human Needs – A New Framework for Happiness

The Effects of Sleep Deprivation on Your Body

How to Reframe the 5 Most Common Physical Depression Symptoms 

Watch Mark Tyrrell Treat Real Clients in Uncommon Practitioners TV

Build Your Client A Roadmap Out Of Depression (4 Quick Psychotherapy Techniques)

The Natural Brain Rhythm you can use to Help Your Clients Heal

 

IX. Meaning

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Challenge

A Simple Power Trick For Getting Stuff Done

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs – Challenge

How to Help Smokers Believe They Can Quit in One Session

7 Powerful Ways To Help Your Client Overcome Relationship Insecurity

 

Links from Endnotes

I. Attention

  1. http://journals.lww.com/psychosomaticmedicine/Abstract/2002/05000/Loneliness_and_Health__Potential_Mechanisms.5.aspx

 

II. Control

  1. http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1559-1816.1999.tb00133.x/full
  2. http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/01634372.2016.1267672
  3. http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1540-4560.1991.tb01832.x/full
  4. http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0885392498800080
  5. http://psycnet.apa.org/record/1988-35828-001
  6. http://psycnet.apa.org/record/1975-10978-001
  7. http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jopy.12333/abstract
  8. http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/erv.605/full

 

III. Intimacy

  1. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16330726

 

IV. Connection

  1. Mussolini, who had a Jewish mistress and friends, famously said: “Race? It is a feeling, not a reality. … National pride has no need of the delirium of race.”
  2. Williams, K. D., Forgas, J. P., and von Hippel, W. (Eds) (2005), The social outcast: Ostracism, social exclusion, rejection, and bullying. Psychology Press, New York.
  3. https://academic.oup.com/scan/article/6/2/234/1617474/Responses-to-ostracism-across-adulthood
  4. http://www.columbia.edu/~nb2229/docs/bolger-zuckerman-kessler-jpsp-2000.pdf
  5. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/06/140612104950.htm
  6. For a wonderful clarification of cultishness in everyday life, see: Deikman, A. (1990), The wrong way home: Uncovering the patterns of cult behavior in American society. Beacon Press, Boston.
  7. Milgram, S. (1973), ‘The perils of obedience’. Published in Harper’s Magazine, December 1973.
  8. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gustave_Le_Bon
  9. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/06/140612104950.htm

 

V. Status

  1. https://www.health.harvard.edu/press_releases/oscar_winners
  2. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whitehall_Study
  3. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2837459/
  4. http://www.pnas.org/content/109/17/6490.abstract
  5. http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/psp/28/1/129/
  6. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanford_prison_experiment
  7. See: http://sheilaisenberg.com/women-who-love-men-who-kill-2/

 

VI. Challenge

  1. See Howard, P. J., Ph.D., The owner’s manual for the brain. pp. 25–26, 726. GA: Bard Press, 1994, 2000. See also Eysenck, H. J., The biological basis of personality. Springfield, IL: Thomas, 1967.
  2. See Carr, N., The shallows: What the internet is doing to our brains. NY: W. W. Norton & Company, 2010.
  3. https://www.cmu.edu/dietrich/sds/docs/loewenstein/BoredUSA.pdf
  4. http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.2466/pr0.1992.70.3.688
  5. See: https://www.hgi.org.uk/useful-information/schizophrenia-and-psychosis
  6. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24444431
  7. https://ijmhs.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/1752-4458-8-53
  8. Alfred Hitchcock’s (almost) one-take 1948 movie ‘Rope’ was based on the Leopold and Loeb case. See also https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leopold_and_Loeb
  9. http://courtnewsuk.co.uk/joanna-dennehy-killing-for-kicks/
  10. https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/piers-morgan-face-face-mass-11529260
  11. See Solzhenitsyn, A., The Gulag Archipelago. Paris, France: Éditions du Seuil, 1973.

 

VII. Mind and Body

  1. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uruguayan_Air_Force_Flight_571#Cannibalism
  2. http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.2466/pms.1989.68.3.787, http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1749-6632.1962.tb50101.x/full
  3. Nemeroff, C. B. (1998) The neurobiology of depression. Scientific American, 278, 6, 28–35.
  4. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/04/120402162546.htm
  5. In one study (https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/000291499290605X) conducted at Stanford Medical School, heart patients were asked to recall times when they had been angry. Although, according to the patients, the anger they felt on recalling the events was only half as strong as it had been during the original experience, their hearts started pumping, on average, 5% less efficiently. Cardiologists view a 7% drop in pumping efficiency as serious enough to cause a heart attack. See also https://link.springer.com/article/10.1023/A:1005596208324
  6. http://www.pnas.org/content/108/15/6270.long
  7. http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0013309
  8. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/233278.php
  9. http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0265407505056438
  10. https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-017-05649-7
  11. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22895382
  12. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0163834317300476?via%3Dihub
  13. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0272494409000838?via%3Dihub
  14. http://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fhea0000068

 

VIII. Meaning 

  1. https://www.befrienders.org/suicide-statistics
  2. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1414751/#!po=31.0811
  3. See Adam Curtis’s documentary The Century of The Self: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Century_of_the_Self
  4. http://www.medicaldaily.com/materialism-makes-people-unhappy-what-focus-instead-297376
  5. http://www.ucl.ac.uk/news/news-articles/1114/061114-longer-lifespan
  6. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relativism#Postmodernism_and_relativism
  7. https://voxeu.org/article/origins-happiness
  8. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jim_Jones