Our relationship with ourselves is a lifelong relationship, and it needs to be committed and steady. When we value, respect, and are patiently well disposed to ourselves, we avoid the dizzy heights of self-adulation but also the lacerating self-despisement of the low self-esteemer. Here I suggest five ways to enhance your clients’ self-compassion and self-acceptance.
Articles on: Self Esteem
Self esteem is a term that can seem quite vague. And yet low self esteem is a specific condition for which there are specific and practical solutions. Feeling like an imposter, staying in an abusive relationship, feeling unable to resist emotional manipulation may all be common signs of low self esteem. If some of your clients have the tendency to chronically undervalue themselves, feel they are unlovable or even worthless then at least some of these articles should be useful.
How to Help Clients Stop Comparing Themselves to Others
It can be useful to inwardly compare yourself to others sometimes. But when social comparison becomes a dominant mode of functioning, you are more likely to harm yourself with it than help yourself. So how can we help our clients cease lacerating themselves on the bitingly sharp self-criticisms of comparanoia? Here are a few approaches […]
How to Help a Client Who Feels They Are ‘Not Good Enough!’
We can become worthy of someone’s love after they fall in love with us… or we can enjoy the absolving light of love and stop demanding to understand why we are loved or why good fortune comes our way. We can cast off the restrictive ideas of deserving or not.
“Take it Easy on Yourself!”
When a client blames themselves for everything, we can help them see there are other reasons why something might occur. Here are five ways to stop your client self-blaming.
How to Use the Affect Bridge to Instantly Raise Self-Esteem
Here are four ways to free your clients from the influence of negative memories using the Affect Bridge
5 Tips for Treating Inferiority Complex
Use these five strategies to lift your clients’ self-esteem.
Prioritizing Client Goals in Therapy
This case study focusses on panic attacks and low self-esteem caused by a violent relationship.
Why Affirmations and Compliments Don’t Boost Low Self Esteem
Working with low self esteem is much easier when you understand how it is warping your client’s thinking style
Stop Imposter Syndrome Sapping Your Client’s Self Esteem
It sounds strange, but positive feedback and compliments can make people suffering from ‘imposter syndrome’ feel even worse about themselves.
The Dangers of Excessive Praise
Praise is wonderful, isn’t it? When someone praises me, I get a lovely warm glow inside and feel great. And they say that the quickest way to get round someone is to flatter them. You have probably enjoyed being praised in your time too.
