When we think of familial abuse we assume it’s adults abusing children. But some adults are pushed around and maltreated by their kids or stepkids. We need to help such clients deal with the effects to improve their own wellbeing but also help the children become well adjusted adults.
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Relationship Wreckers to Help Your Client Avoid
For some people, it’s harder for new relationships to ‘take’, to grow and thrive. And it may, at least in part, be down to some common mistakes. So what are the seven most destructive relationship mistakes? And how can you help your clients avoid them?
How to Help Your Self-Doubting Client
The chronically self-doubting client may endlessly replay choices and feel weighed down by overanalysis of all and everything to do with their lives and those close to them. Here’s a few strategies I use for the chronically self-doubting client, and they may prove useful for you too.
How to Help Your FOMO Client
Fear of Missing Out – FOMO – is a pervasive modern experience, amplified by the omnipresence of social media. FOMO can erode self-esteem, increase anxiety, and diminish life satisfaction. So if FOMO is your client’s problem, or seems to be part of it, what can you do about it?
The Dangers of an Artificial Life
Much has been said about the dangers of UPFs, full as they are of addictive, artificially processed, immiserating, life-shortening, ultra-palatable, lab-made mush. But what about the ultra-processed, mass experiences that surround us? What might ultra-processed living be doing to us?
How to Help Your Client Overcome a Fear of Failure
Some clients have such a fear of failure that they don’t even try to meet their needs or find fulfillment, feeling either that they are bound to fail or that failure itself poses the biggest possible threat. Such is the curse of chronic self-doubt and our job is to help lift it.
When People Are Treated Badly Why Do They Go Back For More?
Have you ever noticed how some people in relationships seem to be gluttons for punishment? Like a moth to a flame they return to be burnt again and again by a manipulative, cruel or even physically abusive partner.
When Success Hurts
Tall poppy syndrome can cause all kinds of life problems for clients. It may not be an official diagnosis, but its emotional impact is real. As therapists, we have the opportunity to challenge the cultural scripts that tell our clients to shrink, apologize, or hide away.
5 Ways Clients Block Their Own Progress in Therapy
Therapy is collaborative, a meeting of minds. But sometimes the very people who seek healing unknowingly become the biggest obstacles to their own progress. Understanding how clients block therapy and how to respond can be the difference between stagnation and transformation.
The Curse of Nighttime Waking
Oh no. You’re awake again! Why, though? You were so tired when you went to bed! Frequent or disruptive awakenings can steal daytime wellbeing and energy. Understanding the problem and the potential underlying causes is crucial for therapists seeking to help clients with sleep difficulties.
